034- Self-Gaslighting in Midlife: The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Being ‘Fine’

Are you really “fine”… or just faking it to power through another day? In this episode, we’re calling out self-gaslighting—those sneaky thoughts that tell you to suck it up, stop being dramatic, and push through—even when your body is clearly waving a yellow flag.

In this episode we:

• break down how midlife women dismiss their own energy signals
• what the science says about it
• why trusting yourself is the most powerful form of self-care. 
• You'll learn how to spot when you're heading toward burnout and build micro-habits to stop the spiral before you hit the red zone.

💡 Plus: A personal challenge to stop minimizing your needs and start honoring your energy like you would for your best friend.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Self-Gaslighting in Midlife Women
• 3:50 Recognizing Your Yellow Zone Signals
• 5:59 How Hormones and Stress Affect Self-Trust
• 8:28 The SMASH Framework for Self-Advocacy
• 11:29 Homework and Energy Tune-Up Resource

Transcript

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